Are you self-confident...or arrogant?
Do you consider yourself arrogant or self-confident? Do you know the difference?
There is a big difference you know. Dr Stephen R. Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) writes that arrogance is the lack of self-awareness; blindness; an illusion; a false form of self-confidence; and a false sense that we’re somehow above the laws of life.
The dictionary defines arrogance as having or showing feelings of unwarranted importance out of overbearing pride. Wow! What a powerful slap in the face to a so-called arrogant person - overbearing pride. If you call an arrogant person arrogant to his or her face, their reaction would most likely be, “Yeah...what’s your point?”
On the other hand, the dictionary defines self-confidence as self-freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities; a feeling of trust in ones self. Covey writes that real confidence is anchored in a quiet assurance that that if we act based on principles, we will produce quality-of-life results. Again...wow! He goes on to say that confidence flows from our own integrity to good principles.
So, if you really want to put an arrogant person in their place...certainly, don’t call them arrogant. This says two things. One, that you are indeed arrogant. And two, that you have recognized a “quality” about that person that they are most likely proud of!
Remember, doing nothing is doing something.
Yes, they do need to be put in their places at some point. We can only hope that this will come to these individuals in a self-awareness mode. There is that term self-awareness again. Finding the turnoff that takes you from the road of arrogance onto the path to self-confidence is not always easy to recognize. The road signs are there, arrogant people chose not to read them.
When I was in my early teens, my parents told me to be careful about being so self-confident. Someone is going to come along and knock you down. But it was not until more recently that I realized the word they meant to say was arrogant.
There is a fine line. The best thing to do is to step up to that line and put your toes on it. That way, you will truly see both sides...and know the difference.
There is a big difference you know. Dr Stephen R. Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) writes that arrogance is the lack of self-awareness; blindness; an illusion; a false form of self-confidence; and a false sense that we’re somehow above the laws of life.
The dictionary defines arrogance as having or showing feelings of unwarranted importance out of overbearing pride. Wow! What a powerful slap in the face to a so-called arrogant person - overbearing pride. If you call an arrogant person arrogant to his or her face, their reaction would most likely be, “Yeah...what’s your point?”
On the other hand, the dictionary defines self-confidence as self-freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities; a feeling of trust in ones self. Covey writes that real confidence is anchored in a quiet assurance that that if we act based on principles, we will produce quality-of-life results. Again...wow! He goes on to say that confidence flows from our own integrity to good principles.
So, if you really want to put an arrogant person in their place...certainly, don’t call them arrogant. This says two things. One, that you are indeed arrogant. And two, that you have recognized a “quality” about that person that they are most likely proud of!
Remember, doing nothing is doing something.
Yes, they do need to be put in their places at some point. We can only hope that this will come to these individuals in a self-awareness mode. There is that term self-awareness again. Finding the turnoff that takes you from the road of arrogance onto the path to self-confidence is not always easy to recognize. The road signs are there, arrogant people chose not to read them.
When I was in my early teens, my parents told me to be careful about being so self-confident. Someone is going to come along and knock you down. But it was not until more recently that I realized the word they meant to say was arrogant.
There is a fine line. The best thing to do is to step up to that line and put your toes on it. That way, you will truly see both sides...and know the difference.
posted by James | 6:41 AM
1 Comments:
I am both. I am usually arrogant when angry... and self-confident when happy. When angry... I might just rub it in your face... when I am happy I will share the self-confidence I have with you and walk with a huge smile.
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